Is it ever a good idea to keep a friendly relationship with your ex? Relationships have always two sides of the coin. Not every relationship that starts well ends well. However, one thing is for sure, if you end a relationship badly, it may be far too awkward to meet up with each other again. So, how to you keep a cordial relationship with an ex? Would it be fair enough just to forget everything and move on? Or should you keep the friendship part?
Yes, the love may be lost, but it is between a decision both partners need to make as to whether or not to keep the friendship alive. It is normal to develop new boundaries and distances after a breakup, but the decision of whether you want to be just civil or extend a solid friendship can be quite hard. A soul can only evolve through its spiritual relationships, so try to see as an opportunity to grow.
If the relationship ended well, there is much more of a chance of keeping a cordial relationship with your ex. However, if the relationship ended on a bitter note or a lot of negative things happened, then it may be better off to leave things in the past. If there are no children involved this is easier to do. You may wish to consider getting a Relationship Compatibility Reading, which will help you better understand how each of you gel. If you both want to attempt to continue a friendship, here are some relationship tips to help you keep a friendship with an ex.
Ways To Befriend Your Ex
Your first step is to make the decision to remain friends. Some relationships can be hard to mend. Men can be indecisive while women can be stubborn and hold grudges. It is important that both parties should take enough time off to heal whatever pain they had.
As to how long the time needed to heal may be, only time can answer. Once both parties have come to terms with and cleared every hurt they had, then and only then can friendship come about once more. It may be hard at first and, most especially, awkward. But things can just settle into its proper place.
This may only be possible with good communication. Both parties need to be able to talk and end whatever bad things have happened in the past. However, once you put a the time and effort into something, it should stay that way. Others may like to try a second time around with their relationship, but if things were not sorted out properly in the first place, then it will still not work out.
Next, is to set boundaries. Both parties should know where they stand. Having a nice afternoon coffee over great conversations can be okay, but nothing more than that. Dinner dates or late-night drinks at each others home can leave both confused and hanging. Sometimes, spending too much time with each other can rekindle whatever leftover feelings there were, which can potentially be a bad idea. A friendship can ideally work if neither party is open to getting back into a relationship. If one party is secretly hoping to get back together, this new relationship will probably not end well and may leave someone with hurt feelings.
In the beginning it would be wise to put limits on your communication. For example, there shouldn't be talk about each others current relationships, especially if you are just trying to remain cordial for the sake of shared children. This can reopen any unwanted topics about your past. Do this only if both of you have totally forgiven each others mistakes. For those with no children or outside ties who really want a true friendship that stands the test of time, you both will potentially be able to get together as couples with your new significant others.
Likewise, never bring up the past. Talking about bloopers and reminiscing over all your funny moments can be okay, as long as you don't have any hidden agenda of using it to get back with your ex. Past topics like what you hated about your partner, what was his or her weaknesses, their bad habits, and such, should never be talked about.
And, of course, you have to respect your friendship. Bad mouthing your ex can be rude and harsh, especially if you do this among your circle of friends. What happened between the two of you should stay between each other. No one should be able to know both of your dirty secrets, and neither of you should have to fear that the other is telling tales behind their back.
Next, you should know your etiquette when dealing with your ex. No more physical connections like putting one hand on their lap, no caressing each others shoulders, and definitely no holding hands. And if you ever see each other out and about, a wave of hello is civil enough, especially if you are with each others new partners.
Lastly, be open in your new relationships about your ex. Ex-boyfriends or ex-girlfriends are always considered as threats to current relationships, especially with women. If ever you talk about your ex, check your current partner's reaction. If they change their behavior or mood, you may want to end the topic and never mention them again. Remember, every person needs assurance in any relationship. Having to mention your ex all the time, or meeting them occasionally is never an assurance.
Things To Avoid When Keeping a Cordial Relationship With An Ex
There are many reasons as to why you may want to befriend your ex. Maybe you feel that the friendship is too good to be put to waste, maybe you started as friends and want to get back the old relationship, or you still want to keep them in your life; all these can be inevitable feelings. However, if you have other reasons than these, such as you don't like the feeling of loneliness so you might as well keep them, or you have hidden agendas of revenge or wanting to have a second chance, then you better think twice because this is quite wrong.
You have to make a thorough assessment of yourself. You can't just make abrupt decisions and then hurt each others feelings in the end. Things like this should be taken seriously, otherwise you are asking for trouble. Thinking can take a lot of time and no one can tell how much time is needed. Having a time off apart from each other, after settling everything, can refresh the relationship. This should be done by both parties in order to meet a mutual understanding.
Having a cordial relationship with an ex can be strange and awkward. Your intention of keeping a friendship should be in a positive note. You have to be careful of bruising each others feelings, especially if both just recently came from a hurtful break up. Nonetheless, giving each other a second chance to mend things, even if it's only in a friendship status can be a great start, that may even last longer than an intimate relationship.
Jordan Canon
Spiritual Advisor
Free-Spiritual-Guidance.com
Capricorn Relationship Compatibility
Capricorns have high standards in love. They can be indecisive about what they want for a lover and can be very choosy who to let in their hearts. They like to approach things at a slow pace and usually test the waters before jumping in any relationship.
They are practical, observant, and pessimistic. They always keep a distance and keep their romantic side reserved, only to the right one they think is worthy of. Often, they can be flirtatious, but are likely to have one long-term relationship.
They are passionate in love and can be romantic as any other zodiac signs. Truth is, once you win their heart, they have the capability to make you special in the grandest way. They can throw expensive dinner parties, or buy you expensive gifts; everything just to make you loved and special.
They can be the most serious when it comes to relationship. The only downside though is, they want their lover to be as serious and passionate as they are. They also want to feel the same way their lover feels for them. They expect nothing less. They should be the center of their lover's attention, same goes with how they value their partner in life.
Positive Traits Of Capricorn Lover
Capricorn's practicality in life is a major factor to consider in any of their relationships. They don't like making abrupt decisions, which can be both a good thing and a bad side. If you are a type of a person who just went with the flow, then Capricorns may not be a good match for you. Not unless, of course, if you know how to compromise.
Also, Capricorns are very sensual. They have wild imaginations when it comes to romancing. They are caring and generous. They would not leave a friend hanging, much more their love ones. They would do everything to make the people that surround them completely happy.
Lastly, they are very spontaneous in love. They can do the craziest things if they feel so desired, and only if they are in the mood for it. They love doing fun, and exciting activities. They may be serious, but that doesn't mean they can be boring lovers.
Negative Traits of Capricorn Lover
Capricorns are well known for being moody. They can be mad at everything onetime, and then be nice and appreciative about the slightest thing the next time. Aside from being moody, they can also be very temperamental. Capricorns have a good memory, and can be unforgiving. Often, they can bring up all the bad things in your relationship every time they have heated arguments. And unless, their lover is patient enough, this can wear them up easily. They are frank and can even bring up nasty things about you and may not be aware how hurtful they can be.
How To Attract A Capricorn
Truth is, it is hard to attract a Capricorn. They can be choosy and pessimistic about the people they first meet. They can observe you closely, only to check what kind of person you are. To bring the ice, all you have to do is to crack it with your humorous joke.
You can be yourself, but don't pry on their personal life. They would feel vulnerable and think their privacy is endangered. They would love to hear your stories though, but will be hesitant to share their own, especially if they feel they are truly safe with your presence.
Lastly, it is important to know that Capricorns are very particular with time and are quite organized and perfectionists, especially when it comes to working, decisions, and life. Someone who can be flawless and mindful of their actions is more likely what a Capricorn would be attracted to.
Don'ts with a Capricorn
Capricorns are very meticulous. They value time, and seriousness in life. They don't like others wasting their efforts, much more not being appreciated. So, always value punctuality and make them feel they are valued all the time.
Also, never control your Capricorn. They want things to go their way, especially with decision making. They are strong, robust, and can be hard headed. It would be best to just support them all the way.
Another thing that Capricorns would never appreciate is to match their temperament or their mood swings. It is necessary to know how to forgive them, and know how to cool down their temper. You have to be mindful if they are at angry, because they can remember every word and thing you do. They can bring this back every time you have another heated argument.
What Capricorn Needs From Their Relationship
In a nutshell, Capricorns are very mysterious. They can seem unemotional and uncaring, but that is only for a show. They just wanted to make sure that they only open up the right person. They don't open up easily, so they need someone who can understand this side in them; much more, someone who can drive and encourage them to trust.
They need a spontaneous relationship; one that can have restrictions and one that can go with the flow if their mood swings desires. They don't need a jealous partner, all the more, someone who would limit them from doing the things they love.
Capricorns need a relationship valued on respect, deep friendship, and trust. They need to know that the person they would offer their heart to is as serious as they are. They can easily be vulnerable, especially when they are hurt, and this is something that they always avoid happening. Capricorns are always up for a long-term relationship, and someone who is looking for the same thing is always welcome to woo a Capricorn.
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Love and light
Jordan Canon
Spiritual Advisor
www.Free-Spiritual-Guidance.com
Relationship Tips with an Cancer (June 22- July 22)
Of course, the best way to know anyone you want to understand better is by getting a Cancer Astrology Reading. The spiritual readings on my website are free, and you have your choice of a personal, relationship compatibility, or future reading. You can also read your Daily Cancer Horoscope and your Love Emotions for the day.
How Are Cancer When In Love
Cancer like its ruling planet, the Moon, is known for their caring and nurturing side. But, a cancer does not fall fast in the idea of love. Often, they are skeptical. It takes them a lot of time to trust. If they want someone, after careful analyzing, and they know their feelings are right, they would go after that person in an instant. On the contrary, when someone is luring them out, they would normally pause and drive that person away. At times, they have a nasty way of self-defence.
When their guard is down, you can find a soft spot for a Cancerian. They are very caring and generous lovers. They always have the notion of a perfect romance. Once they love you, expect to be treated like a queen or a king. They would do everything to make each moment with their partner a memorable one.
One thing that you have to watch out for, however, is their high temperament. They are very moody and easily get angry even with the slightest of things. It is important their partner understands their every mood swings and are forgiving for their misbehaviours.
Positive Traits Of Cancer Lover
Cancer is one of the most loyal of the zodiac sign. They are passionate, loyal, and very responsive in love. They see to it that things are always in order even when it comes to their love life. They are strong and independent-minded people, but can be emotionally clingy.
They are supportive of whatever their partners dreams, talents, or lives may be and would do everything to help out and nurture what they have. They have that special power to make others feel good and they are always sensitive to the needs of their partner. Cancers, likewise, are the most loyal lovers among the 12 zodiac signs.
Negative Traits of Cancer Lover
Cancer has a good memory. Often, when in a heated argument, they would bring out their partners faults. They are also moody, and have a high temperament. They can be sweet one time, and get mad at one thing the next time. Ironically, what their mad at are petty things. They are overly sensitive and gets hurt easily. Cancer takes a long time trusting someone, especially when it comes to their opposite sex. But, once you win their heart, they can be the best among your best friends or lover. They, however, the tendency to demand love back.
How To Attract An Cancer
The biggest concern a cancer have in a relationship is trust. To attract a cancer, you must win their friendship first. They do not trust easily, so you have to show them your sincerity. Building their trust can be hard and takes time, so never force them into one thing they do not want.
Listen to them. That's one thing they are attracted of. Don't just listen though, but actively listen. They love to tell stories, and tell their day dreams and ambitions in life. They like live conversations, and those with great sense of humour.
Someone who is as caring, understanding, and supportive like them is someone that could sweep them of their feet. They are attracted to someone who is very sensual and loving. They love being appreciated and are attracted to thoughtful persons. They don't mind being martyrs in love so long as their partner is loyal to them. If you break your promise, be ready that your cancer lover could be your worst enemy.
Don'ts with an Cancer
Cancer is very sensitive. Don't do anything they don't like or they are sensitive to. Once they fix their mind on something, you may talk about it with them, but never argue with them upfront. They would be defensive about it and would feel disrespected.
Never play with their emotions. They are very true and sincere to their words, and they look forward to someone who never theirs too. They don't also like controlling and manipulative persons. They always want to be in control of their lives. In fact, they want to be the one followed instead.
Lastly, never disregard something they find very important even the smallest of things, like a souvenir or the pettiest of things like a plane ticket. Also, don't disregard their feelings. They rarely show their sensual side, so once they do; they expect their partner to be responsive.
What Cancer Needs From Their Relationship
Cancer needs someone who is trustworthy and as loyal as they are. They don't like to play games and are never the type to play games or toy with someone emotion. They long for security in love and would prefer long engagement and lasting relationships.
They also need a relationship full of understanding. They can be emotional and moody at times, but it is only one of their witty ways to get attention and feel that they are being loved. They can be tactful, but a forgiving partner is always that wins their heart.
They also like to weight things, which is why they need a relationship with an open mind. They love to change their mind. A partner who can accept their vast and wild mind is someone they need in their lives. Cancer is very observant and intelligent. They can sense if your intentions are genuine. You can never fool them. A relationship build in truthfulness, stability, and pure love is what they need most. They want someone without any hidden agenda.
Also, they need a relationship full of variety. They don't like to stick on doing the same thing. They love having fun and adventure. They also like spending quality time over great dinner and beautiful scenery. Something that is romantic to do is what they need in a relationship.
Cancer is very loyal and loving partners. They need someone who can understand their sensitive side, and can go along their unexpected side. Mostly, they long for a relationship that is lasting and secure.
Jordan Canon
Spiritual Advisor
www.free-spiritual-guidance.com
Aries Relationship Compatibility Advice
(March 21-April 19)
This is very broad summary of thousands (feels like millions) of free spiritual astrology readings I've done over the years. The only way to evolve your soul is through your relationships. It makes sense that using a tool like this will help you understand the souls around you, improve your relationships, and evolve your soul.
To learn more about your Aries, I recommend you visit my Aries Daily Horoscope page.
How Are Aries When In Love
Aries is ruled by Planet Mars and love for them is always like an adventure. They love chasing after what they want and when in love, they always hit rock bottom. Sometimes, they would be in love before they even know it.Arians aren't just passer bys when in a relationship.
They are one of the most loyal partners. They don't like the notion of infatuation, which is why it is hard for an Aries to get over from heart breaks. They tend to be on a fast pace, always a head of others, and never like competition.
Aries is physical lovers and very generous. They love the power of intimacy, but would rather flaunt it in private with their lover. Their thoughtfulness is very evident with their passion to give small gifts, and simple love letters. Aries when in love brings a different kind of romance that sometimes can be too strong and pushy to others, while it's the kind of love blend for some.
Positive Traits of the Aries Lover
Arians are independent people. So, it is important that their lovers respect their own private time. But then, when the switch is turned on, they also expect their partners to be ready and go with them. They are also optimistic in a relationship. They would do everything to make it last, even if the relationship is on the rocks.
They are very experimental and enthusiastic lovers. They love to go on a couple of places with their partners and burst those comfort bubbles. Their enthusiasm can often be on high levels though, especially when it comes to romancing in bed. On the downside, they expect their partners to have the same enthusiasm level too, which could be exciting and frustrating at the same time in so many ways.
Negative Traits of the Aries Lover
Arians are unpredictable. They can be sweet one time and moody the next time. Their sensitive side can be over powering that when pushed could show their lovers their bad side. It is important that their partners know what they want and don't like. Arians are very temperamental; testing their patience can draw the line. They are considered "the baby" of the zodiac becuase they are first sign. If you are close to an Aries, than you should be familar with their child-like side.
Overall, Aries can be great and loyal lovers, but their feelings and impulse are one thing to watch out for. They have the need for praises, all the time. They don't like being lied to, and much more being disrespected and unappreciated.
How To Attract An Aries
Arians are very intellectual and they are highly attracted to people who can carry long and interesting conversations. They easily get bored. It can be a nice to challenge them, both mentally and physically. A person who is so enthusiastic and adventurous is someone they would likely spend the rest of their lives.
Also, Aries are well likely to be attracted toward a person who knows how to appreciate them. They love hearing compliment words about them, especially about their physique, their intelligence, and their works. Furthermore, they are lured to people who can understand; understand their private time, understand their ways and plans, and understand their freedom.
Don'ts with an Aries
To start with, never fake anything with an Aries. They would know it straight away. Aries loves honestly. It would be great if you just be straight forward, even with the slightest and meanest things about them. Never make an Aries jealous. They don't like competition. Never flirt with anyone in front of them, unless you're asking for a death wish. They would appreciate it more that their partner's eyes are just all over them.
Likewise, never take them for granted. Appreciate them, even for the smallest thing they do. Never control them, never look bored with them, and never do decisions you haven't told them ahead. That for them would be a huge disrespect.
In addition, Arians don't like naggers, most especially with men. If agreements heat up, it would be practical to just keep silent. Let them pour out their rage, but never put more fire by ignoring or saying nasty things about them. They would never forgive you.
On the contrary, Arians can sometimes be a control freak. If they want their partner to do something, it is important for them to do it right away. Delay can annoy them; more so, any disagreement with their decisions and orders. They hate someone who defies them, but would greatly reward a lover who is so obedient.
What Aries Wants From Their Relationship
Aries needs a long relationship. They don't like pass time and summer romances. They are true to their words, and when they say,"I love you," it only means a long-term commitment. They can be overpowering, jealous, and high maintenance, but relationship with an Aries would probably be the best you would ever have.
Intimacy is Aries next priority. Private time should be often. If not, they may easily get bored. And if not amended, worst case is, they would leave their partners. Aries has the tendency to be selfish and demanding. A relationship with them can be tiring, but they need someone who would never give up.
Adventure is another part in their relationship that needs to be filled up. You can never get tired and bored with them. They always have wild ideas to be somewhere, or do something fun and crazy. What they need is someone who has that same level of energy.
Lastly, Aries needs a relationship full of love and appreciation. They love sweet compliments and would always look for someone who values their time and effort. Always keep them in mood. Because of their short temperament, extra patience is needed in their lover. If you match their temper, they can be unforgiving.
A relationship that is fun, passionate, and full patience is love is the kind of relationship Aries is looking for and striving to work out. A relationship that is not afraid to the step the next level would probably the perfect relationship for an Arian. Having a relationship with an Arian is like putting yourself in the mirror, what you handle them, is the exact way they would treat you.
To learn more about your Aries, I recommend you consider getting a very detailed Aries Relationship Compatibility Reading. These readings have over 30 pages of text and are free. A service dedicated to your spiritual evolution.
Love and light,
Jordan Canon
Spiritual Advisor
Free-Spiritual-Guidance.com
